Have you ever looked at your closest family member or a co-worker and felt like they were a stranger? That unsettling feeling is something we all experience and it can plant seeds of doubt that distance us emotionally and spiritually. This episode explores how these rifts form and what we can do to bridge the gaps. We discuss the bravery it takes to invest in relationships and the importance of being receptive, even in the face of modern distractions like technology. Genuine, intimate interactions are becoming increasingly rare, and it's more crucial than ever to reassess how we engage with the people around us. We'll talk about how to return to authentic, heartfelt communication and the transformative impact it can have on our lives.
In another segment, we shift our focus to the incredible power of love and connection. Being fully present and committed in relationships is more than just fulfilling wants; it’s about creating a sense of eternal belonging and mutual upliftment. Expressing love and appreciation can strengthen bonds and make those around us feel truly valued. We emphasize the necessity of being a dependable and supportive partner while fostering a mentality of respect and gratitude. Listen in to discover how love and kindness are not just nice add-ons but fundamental to enriching our relationships and overall well-being.
Have you ever looked at your closest family member or a co-worker and felt like they were a stranger? That unsettling feeling is something we all experience and it can plant seeds of doubt that distance us emotionally and spiritually. This episode explores how these rifts form and what we can do to bridge the gaps. We discuss the bravery it takes to invest in relationships and the importance of being receptive, even in the face of modern distractions like technology. Genuine, intimate interactions are becoming increasingly rare, and it's more crucial than ever to reassess how we engage with the people around us. We'll talk about how to return to authentic, heartfelt communication and the transformative impact it can have on our lives.
In another segment, we shift our focus to the incredible power of love and connection. Being fully present and committed in relationships is more than just fulfilling wants; it’s about creating a sense of eternal belonging and mutual upliftment. Expressing love and appreciation can strengthen bonds and make those around us feel truly valued. We emphasize the necessity of being a dependable and supportive partner while fostering a mentality of respect and gratitude. Listen in to discover how love and kindness are not just nice add-ons but fundamental to enriching our relationships and overall well-being.
Do I know you? As I stare across the table and I'm looking at my peers, I'm looking at my co-workers, I'm looking at my family, they said that there's a bloodline, some sort of a correlation. No, we're anointed together. I'm like no, you don't even know who I am. Do I know you? We often see the strangers in one another and we find it to be upheaving. You see, our lives are so unsatisfying that I couldn't dare possess even for a second to stoop my level down to yours so that I could be receptive to the type of life that you're leading and what you're living. We are strangers, but we're strangers to the wants and needs that what we have, everything that we could ever want or need satisfaction or unsatisfied we should be capable of fulfilling. But when we have a life of resentment, of settlement or settlement of resentment, we don't really get anywhere. And, by the way, you know, you plant a seed and you watch it grow. Unfortunately, in this particular scenario, it is the same aspect when you plant seeds of doubt in one another. When you look across the table and you know who this person is. You know what their name is Some of them. You know their birthdates, their social security numbers. You know what they sleep, what clothing they got, you know almost everything about them, but you have no clue who they actually are, because their soul is screaming out from the inside. Help me release me from this prison. Then you've got problems. So be brave in your own personal family life. Think about your spouse or spouses, girlfriends, whatever type of life you lead. By the way, I try not to judge, I'm more of an acceptance type of person. I enjoy a little bit of love, yes, of course. So be brave, and being brave is being receptive. It's taking that risk A lot of us. We don't even want to be temperamental, so we see a problem or an issue in somebody else Instead of trying to just have love for that person. And I've seen it before. No, I've tried to love her and she gives me the cold shoulder, she denies me. She knows what I want, she knows what I'm thinking. I'm trying to help and I'm not getting anywhere.
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If they want you to be in their life in that discipline degree or regard, they're going to ask you If they want you actively being in their life every morning when they wake up. Good morning, how are you? Did you want to say a prayer with me Good morning. Good morning, how are you? Did you want to say a prayer with me? Good morning, right? Think about what I'm saying. It's nighttime. Did you want me to brush your hair for you? Did you want to say a prayer together before you went to sleep? Think about what I'm saying. If they want you to be in their life, they'll ask you, you'll know it, they'll involve themselves, they'll make time for you.
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I made time for an individual years and years and years on, and I just kept investing in this person. I thought, well, I'm going to give you everything that I got, I'm going to keep paying it forward, I'm going to invest in you, I'm going to make sure that you've got it. And I couldn't bridge the gap. I could never quite get there. It was only in thought and theory and reason. There was no fleshing out of the subject, of the topic. It never took works. It was completely useless. The internal works and external works didn't work and I thought my God, help me. So what am I to do at this point? Because the resentment of obligation, maybe it's the obligation that didn't occur. Somebody else made a decision Sounds like it was awkwardly the wrong one. How come? Because I didn't get anywhere. Now it's the only obligation we have to one another. You know I'm sour and bitter. No, you're sour and bitter, I get that, so let's walk away.
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Separation of the whole person creates a coexistence within our family. Dynamic we used to reference sitting at the dinner table at night is not even happening anymore, so we don't even sit at the dinner table. We sit out in the living room or in the couch or everybody eats whenever they want to eat, everybody's on the go and we just go. A lot of us were sitting at the dinner table. We've all got blue screens in our faces. We're swiping on through checking our feeds. I'm like, like, like love. Yes, I got a date tonight, loving it right.
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Separation of our whole person intellectually, emotionally, physically, spiritually, intimately, economically, including substance, wise. We're not only separated from our own wants and needs, but we create a false persona of who we should be and we adapt in our minds that we have to project this image. And this image is photoshopped, it's taunted, it's tainted, it's renewed, it's born again. It's something that we can see that's derogatory in everybody else and the coexistence, if you would. We view it as a task and a chore. Oh God, help me why? What's going on? Well, I'm at the end of my shift. Well, good for you, you get to go home. No, you don't understand. She's going to be standing at the door and I'm going to have to deal with her here. Let me switch social hats real quick. Let me put on the social hat of the husband, the father, of the one who actually cares, and let's see if we can just make it through the night. I've only got an hour, an hour and a half by the time of that. Eat, shower, shave, then I'll get to go to bed, yes, and I don't have to deal with her anymore.
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Think about what I'm saying. We pre-plan in our heads what's going to be happening and what is going to be enforced, but the derogatory of notion lacks discovery. The purpose and the initiative is not there. I don't want to discover life within you. I'm not open to new suggestions or a new form of you. Or you changed yourself, you recreated yourself, or you're being born again or renewed. You see, when you stop loving that person and have love, caring, compassionate ways of being thankful for them, then the same comes back to you. Be receptive to the forms of love that they can give you, because you'll receive it back. So individualism is discovery within a relationship.
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Did you know the best prosperity relationships? That are climbing Mount Everest and jumping out of helicopters together, renewing their balls. They're happy, they're smiling. I married my best friend. Did you know that their own personal lives are outright banging? They're taking selfies. They're doing it right and they're not bringing inequity into their relationships, they're walking away from it. They're waking up in the morning saying no to the wrong person and saying, yes, good morning, how are you? I see. You See what I'm saying.
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They are invested not only in themselves, but the ones that they have in their lives. So then they would say, well, it could be your better half. You are united, you're united as one. You share that bond. That's equity, right, y'all are building with one another. Don't ever look for yourself in that other person.
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In a relationship, there ain't no alpha. And I get it, I get it. I wear the jeans, she pays the bills, I go to work, vice versa. But that doesn't mean that you're worse, that doesn't mean that they're better. It doesn't mean that it's going to upheave you or make things worse for you. It just means that that's what they're capable of and that's what they're given and doing for you.
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I'll tell you when you wake up and you can see the love in that person and how they're giving it to you and you're receptive to what God has given them. That's an investment that's going to last for eternal belonging and believing. So blood maternal doesn't have possession. And what does that mean? So it means that if you have bloodline, you're like a cousin, you're like a brother, you're a sister and you're like we were born to the same family. It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't have possession and it's maternal. By the way, it's growing on you.
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No, as life advances, I continue to succeed. I can continue to find my own life. And guess what? If I needed you God forbid me I'd ask you for help. So now the tables can get turned in a sense of opposition.
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I'm waking up in the morning. I'm looking over her. She's still asleep. God help me. I so need you. I can't do anything wrong because I can't afford to lose you. That doesn't sound like you're fulfilled. It doesn't sound like you're embraced. It sounds like you're walking on eggshells. No, I can't lose her. You know what I'm saying. She'd get right back a bag and hit the door real quick. I've seen her before. She got the black card. She'd be hitting a red eye and she's gone. Oh, think about what I'm saying.
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In the right type of relationship, they'll hold you down. You hold them down, you'll find fulfillment in them. You might wake up. You might be having a terrible morning. I don't feel right. I ain't got the right type of thought. My coffee ain't ready. Oh, I'm running late.
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You see that person. They put the spark in your eye. They're the joy and the happiness that fulfills your soul as you maternally grow within it. So blood and maternal doesn't have possession. Don't ever pull that card on somebody. Hey, look, this is my rank and roll in your life. Look, if I wanted you at that sector, you'd know it because I'd have you there and I'd be happy about you being there.
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So don't forget, individualism is discovery. In a relationship, you're still expected to have self-growth. If you stop succeeding as an individual, immediately that other person in that relationship, they're going to look at you. Well, I don't know what's wrong with you, but I'm going to continue to move. I mean I'm moving out, I'm moving on because life continues to advance. It doesn't mean that you can't share your joys. It doesn't mean that you can't share your passions. What I'm telling you is you need to continue to do you, and the moment you stop doing you, I'm telling you what they ain't going to be able to do you for you. So you're going to have to figure out what works for you, and it's this thing, it's this crazy little thing called love and life. Some of us get it right and some of us get it wrong, but as long as it works, there's consent and acceptance, then you can have communication and communication's turnkey.
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I'm hitting the whip in the morning, turning the key, and I'm out the door. Sometimes I'm even popping the top. Think about what I'm saying. Did you need something? Don't approach your significant other like you're unapproachable. Approach them in the minds that you're capable. You're giving. Good morning. How are you Cool? What you got going on today? Is there something I can do for you? I mean, I see you got a lot going on.
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Always be available for your significant other, and I don't mean on a shallow assertion of I can give you what you want either. I heard that before Now. I'll give you what you want, not like that. Be there as a whole person. Be there as somebody that can be counted on, be there in a sense of sustainment for eternal belonging, that, no matter how many times you fail, you fall, how many mistakes you've made, you can continue to advance within that relationship because it's bringing you back to life and you're capable of putting life back within that other person. So I'm not sure about you. You know what I mean. I'm not sure about you. You know what I mean. I'm not sure about you.
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But when you shine and when you're successful, when you're feeling like you got more than enough every day, and you're walking out and you're saluting out the door, you got your three-piece on and you're looking real nice. You know what I mean. Where'd you get that outfit from? Take one second out of your day and make sure that you remind the ones that you got in your life, the ones that you care about, the ones that you can't afford to lose it might be your grandmama, it might be your mama, I'm not sure the ones that you care about. Make sure you reach out to them and tell them. You know what I just wanted to tell you I love you. Is there something I can do for you? You're having a good day.
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You and you bless them with that respect and that type of mindset and mentality, because you can't afford to lose out on life, you don't want to miss out on life and you want them to be an active part of your life. So, blood, if you would, I believe in it, but you know what you better have your own, and maternal, if you would, you know, I mean, we go to the same church but I'm not really sure who he is. Don't be a stranger to those that are trying to find out who you are. Be open enough to be receptive to the love that you're receiving, because if you can receive the love that you're given or the love that they're given, trust and rest assured that you'll be capable of giving that love back to them. And I'll tell you what they say one rotten apple ruins the whole orchard.
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I'm not quite sure about that concept, but I'm telling you, put a little love in your heart goes a very long ways in this world. And continuing to show the type of love that we can have for one another. Well, thank you for listening. God bless you and thank you for continuing to be invested in Life for Death Ministries, don't forget to be brave. Separation. I'm trying to love you on the whole person level, taking it to that level and that degree. Thank you for listening, god.